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A Mad Desire To Dance by Elie Wiesel

This is a story about an old Jewish man who thinks he is mad but not mad enough to not seek help.  Because he seeks help with a ferocity that would make a young girl blush if you told her she was the prettiest thing you’d ever seen.  Which is more or less what the old man does by the end of the story in seeking out a random young woman in a coffee shop, befriending her, and evidently making a life with her.  But before that, he tries to “cure” himself of his madness by seeking out the services of a psycho-therapist, another Jewish woman who truly wishes to help him out but has issues of her own.  The arrangement is actually mutually beneficial because at the end of the sessions, a breakthrough has indeed occurred in terms of recalling memories embedded within memories from years past that go all the way back to his childhood.  A fine example of the value of psychoanalysis, I suppose, but this story is more than that. 

It is a story about feeling guilty about not feeling guilty enough.  For surviving the holocaust, among other things, the most common reason of guilt that besets many a post-World War II survivor.  And for having a life of comfort that has come about in the most extraordinary of circumstances.  This is actually the twist to the story that is revealed only at the very end of the book, well after all the therapy sessions are done and over with.

At the end of it all, there is at last a kind of redemption that the old man is afforded.  This is a hopeful story: one about finding love in your sunset years, taking risks no matter the risk, reconciling oneself with one’s view of history, and forging ahead to a future that is entirely of your making. 

Bravo, Mr. Wiesel!  I must check out your other work.

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The Beaver, 2011

A story about another dysfunctional family.  Well, actually, that’s the norm, not the exception these days where dysfunction is the new function or the new normal.  Where fathers’ have alter-egos in the form of a muppet-like stuffed animal that looks like a beaver, and sons’ bang their heads against their bedroom walls so hard that they make a hole right through the wall– but cover it up from the inside with a nice world map.

Well, on a more serious level this is a story of mental illness and the reality of living with a person afflicted with a disorder of the mind.  It can be funny, but not really.  Not when you realize that the one you love doesn’t know who they really are, and in order to maintain some semblance of normalcy they must resort to the absolute abnormal.  No laughing matter, all this.  But all’s well and it ends well.  Which, unfortunately, is not always the case every time in real life…

Mel Gibson does a fine job of portraying this mentally unsound father and husband, and his natural Aussie accent is put to good use when he is in the character of the beaver.  Jodie Foster knows her way both in front and behind the camera.  And the two sons add to the drama of what it means to keep your sanity about you when your life-responsibilities include being a parent.

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Can't Tire Of It: A Simple Indian Meal!

On and off, I have waxed eloquent about my love of the “simple meal” by which I’m always referring to an Indian meal of Rice and/or Rotis (Bread) with a Dal (lentil soup) and a Subzi (Veggie) or two.

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Well, the other day, was one like many others, and yet, I couldn’t but stop, if only for a moment, to reaffirm to myself what really makes me tick.  It was quite involuntary, really, and yet I recognized without a shadow of a doubt that feeling of complete contentement washing over me as I dug into my plate of Yellow Arhar Dal w/ Baby Carrots, the Spinach, Peas and Chana Dal subzi, and the Baingan ka Bharta subzi.

I suppose we all have our comfort foods.  These are some of mine.  Take a look!

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Pale pink gerbera daisies.

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